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My Girlfriend Doesn't Have Time for Me (Tips to Get Back on Track)

She might have stopped loving you or found someone else. It can be very difficult to accept that your girlfriend just isn't interested in you anymore. While it is really tough, try not to panic. Take a step back and think about the reasons behind why she behaves this way has towards you. Featured Image of My Girlfriend Doesn't Have Time for Me

Have you ever been so in love with a girl that you haven't had any interest in spending time with anyone else for the past few years? 

You're completely consumed by her and would do anything for her. 

But now, after a few years, she seems like she stopped loving you and found excuses not to spend time with you. Sometimes, your girlfriend simply doesn't have time for you. A relationship is meant to be two people who love each other being together. 

If you feel like this means your girlfriend has lost interest, read further to determine if your fears are true.

Here are the reasons why your girlfriend doesn't have time for you

It feels like you're in a relationship, yet your partner has no time for you! No matter what you try to do, she just doesn't seem to have the time for you. It's frustrating, to say the least, but a few things could be happening.

#1 She is busy with her daily life

She is probably not seeing anyone. Most women nowadays are into work. They are either busy with their careers or quest to improve their entrepreneurial endeavors. If you are a boyfriend, it can be hard being a companion for your girlfriend. It is because she is more into her profession or personal life. 

Sometimes when a woman has a lot going on, she might not have time for the little things. If your girlfriend is falling into this category, it could just be stress from all the tasks she has going on in her life. She isn't trying to blow you off, but she does need to focus on other things.

If you have the right woman, she will make time for you. The trick is to know how to handle her and not be demanding in the relationship.

Nowadays, we all have to be involved in too many things. We have work, friends, family, pets, and hobbies. On top of that, we are trying to find time for our partners. Normally, you are too busy. 

The day is not enough to make everything. These reasons may be valid, but they are also just excuses sometimes. Time is the one thing we can never get more of, but by being smart and managing time well, we can always find time to do all the important things in life.

#2 She is under pressure at work

We all are hard-working professionals and want to make your career a success. But sometimes, the lifestyle that comes with the job might create some obstacles in our relationship. 

Your girlfriend does not have time for you as she struggles at work. She may be angry with her boss, dealing with office politics, or just overwhelmed with her responsibilities.

Work could be making it hard for her to have time for you — and herself, too. But she can't talk about it with anyone, not even with you. She just wants to go home.

It's fine if she doesn't share her pressure with you and takes her terms when she wants to be close to you again. At times, we feel that a partner controls our lives, but in reality, we are controlling theirs too as they follow our expectations.

Be there for her, provide her a shoulder to lean on, and most importantly, listen to her (Yes! Just listen) without judgments.

#3 She has lost interest in you

In the beginning, everything was great and fun. You always looked forward to joining your girlfriend or surprising her with inventive date ideas.

But now, suddenly, things have changed. You feel like you're getting the cold shoulder or being avoided. Or maybe she isn't as enthusiastic about the relationship as before. The attraction is gone, and there are no more exciting moments together.

Maybe she doesn't have time for you anymore because her focus has shifted to something more powerful. Maybe you aren't the one she wants to be with anymore. 

I understand how frustrating and worrying it feels. I've been through the same thing, too, and I know how it feels when you think someone doesn't have time for you anymore because she always comes up with excuses to avoid spending time with you.

#4 Your relationship is stuck in a rut

You and your girlfriend have been together for a while now. You like each other, and you are happy spending time together, but something is missing in the relationship. 

Maybe you don't get enough opportunities to talk and listen to each other?

Or maybe you helplessly watch your relationship becoming routine?

It's time to ask yourself if this is what you want in love.

You were very passionate in the beginning. Everything seemed a lot more romantic. 

But somewhere along the way, things became monotonous and stale. Because of this, the relationship is struggling to grow, and you are feeling unsatisfied and disappointed. 

The situation seems hopeless, but it's still not too late. If you take action now, you'll be able to create that spark - the spark that can reignite your romance and passion again. We often don't realize until it is too late that we are monotonously living and reacting when we should be vibrant and positive in reality.

#5 She is upset with you

Your girlfriend doesn't have time for you? What have you done now? It doesn't matter what it is. If she doesn't have time for you, then there is a good chance that she is hurt and wants to let you know by all means possible.

Girs will not tell you when they are hurt, but you must understand how they feel. There are several ways to show that they were hurt, and spending lesser time is just one of the many treatments.

Even though your girlfriend doesn't have time for you, try to understand why she is busy or giving a cold shoulder. Your girlfriend wants you to know that she is hurt and wants an apology for your behavior.

#6 You are extremely casual

Girlfriend is your special one who you love and adore. You love her a lot, but she doesn't have time for you. But the fact is that she no longer cares about your feelings.

Once she learned that you lead a carefree life without any aim, your image has completely changed in front of her eyes. You are not as serious as she thought herself to be your future wife.

You're not serious about building a future together. Since you don't have your life figured out, she doesn't see a future with you. Your disinterest in growing as an individual is the final straw that broke the camel's back.

You know that you are not going to change her mind. You are just making a scene in her life. It's better to take some steps and make her proud of you. 

Having a girlfriend is wonderful. While it may not always be butterflies and rainbows, most of the time, it's smooth sailing.

Having someone who makes you feel special and valued and makes time for you is rewarding. But what happens when she doesn't have time for you? Whether she's simply too busy with work or any other activities and obligations — she should make time for you, but she doesn't.

Tips to get your relationship back on track

When your girlfriend doesn't have time for you, you probably start to feel neglected and upset. You might think it's a sign that your relationship isn't working and that it's time to move on. 

But before you run off, take a deep breath and read my tips to figure out what's going on with her life so she can start finding time for you again. I promise it will help!

#1 Talk it out

Relationships are complicated, and both parties are responsible for their happiness. However, if your girlfriend emphasizes her job and other chores than your relationship, you must concern yourself with this sad situation.

There might be a lot of issues hindering her happiness in the relationship, and perhaps she doesn't even notice it. 

I know that problems between a couple could be solved properly only if both parties are willing to listen to each other's points without being judgemental.

Try your best to resolve the troubles that you have together. Admit the shortcomings and work on them, rather than blaming each other and just excuse them every time things go wrong.

#2 Create space in your relationship

If you love your girlfriend and see this as a temporary phase where she doesn't have time for you, you know she'll come back around. Then, the best thing you can do right now is focused on yourself. 

Please don't ask her what's wrong or keep pressing her to spend time with you. Do things that make you feel better. 

This will give your girlfriend some space to think on her own, and when she comes back around to you, you'll be able to work together on your relationship.

#3 Listen to her

Any time you spend with her might be filled with idle talk about more stressful things happening in her life at the moment instead of a casual conversation about what happened during your day at work. 

With this being said, please don't throw a major fit and make it seem like you aren't worthy of her attention. Instead, it would be best to make yourself available to listen to her when she wants to vent out her emotions.

Then once she has vented, tell her that you are there any time of the night or day and will gladly listen whenever she feels like venting some more. 

I know you think she is upset with you, but the chances are that if you stop trying to make it all about "you" and start making it about "her," she might enjoy spending time with you more than ever before!

#4 Find a middle ground

Relationships all have conflict. There is just no way around it. Every relationship is going to go through its ups and downs. 

However, how you deal with that conflict and interact with each other can make or break the relationship. 

If you are going through some relationship conflict right now and your girlfriend doesn't have time for you, then it may be time to find a common interest you both can share.

While it's easy for couples to get into a routine, you have to be open to new experiences together. After all, this will help avoid any potential argument that your girlfriend doesn't have time for you. 

You might find that there are common interests that can bring both of you together. You won't know if you don't try. Just because she isn't interested in what you want to do today doesn't mean she won't be tomorrow. 

If you want to save your relationship and keep your girlfriend around, this is a straightforward way to do so.

#5 Take part in her plans

You both know she's been a little neglectful lately, but you don't want to keep pushing her for how she feels if you haven't gotten anywhere the last couple of times. 

If you're feeling a bit ignored lately or have noticed your girlfriend's not making plans, don't be afraid to ask if she could make it happen.

This gives her a chance to take the reigns and step up to the plate, rather than playing this tug-of-war scenario with each other.

Next time she makes plans and offers you a spot in whatever she has going on, simply say, "Of course, sounds like a blast! I'm looking forward to it!" Be positive, don't blame her or bring up your concerns again. 

If this doesn't change things around after a few weeks or months, you have your answer that she doesn't have time for you.

#6 Give her extra love

If you feel like your relationship may be lacking in some ways, don't worry about it. It happens to the best of us. You can bring the fun and romance back.

You can fix things by being a little bit spontaneous, thoughtful, and honest about how your relationship is going. Take the time to tell your girlfriend how you feel (and maybe even make an effort to show it).

The best way to get your woman to start doing things with you again is to encourage her, show her that you are not giving up, and make her feel special. Doing this will give your relationship the extra motivation that it needs for you both to be happy again.


It's hard to think that something could go wrong in a relationship just starting. All it takes is one event, and then you and your girlfriend can be pulled away from each other. 

I know you feel like you're going crazy, but you've got to trust me on this. You'll never find a long-term mate if you keep acting like this. 

I know what it's like to be in your position. I do. But now it's time to change the way you and your girlfriend view each other. It won't be easy when this happens, but it's important not to give up because if there is any hope for your relationship, it will not happen overnight.

Megha Chanda

Weekend Writer

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