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My Girlfriend Gets Mad at Me for the Smallest Things [10 Tips]

If your girlfriend gets mad over things that aren't important, she lacks emotional intelligence. She doesn't understand her actions and why she is upset. She acts out of impulse rather than logic. This is a problem of self-awareness that needs to be addressed.A guy looks upset sitting on a bench

Relationships can be challenging. We all know this, especially when you've been with your girlfriend for some time now and are trying to navigate the infrequent rough waters that surface in even the happiest of relationships. 

Perhaps she never wants to talk to you and always gets angry at the smallest things? 

Or maybe she doesn't seem to listen to you and is never interested in spending time with you anymore? 

What on earth could have caused this? And is there any way to get her back? 

It sucks when you are dating someone who gets mad at you all the time. You could have done nothing, but she gets mad at you. You don't know how to handle it.

If you're dealing with the frustrations of your girlfriend being mad at you for no reason, you're not alone.

Often, guys are left wondering why their girlfriends are mad or stressed over small issues. And it's no wonder women get upset, as they face so many different pressures and obstacles just by being a woman in today's world.

If you're tired of your girlfriend getting mad at you for stupid reasons and don't know where to turn for help -- or if it's something else -- there's hope. 

Start by taking an honest look at yourself, make a few adjustments, and see how much calmer and happier your relationship can be in the process. The women you date will thank you!

It hurts when your girlfriend or wife is mad at you. You never know how to behave and feel guilty about your wrong deeds and the things that you've done that were not up to the mark. How else to stop her from getting angry? 

Here, we'll discuss some points that might help you make her see sense and understand why she seems hurt.

No bluff reasons why your girlfriend gets mad at you for the smallest things [with solutions]

Ah, a woman's wrath! A man may find himself at the receiving end of her fury for one reason or the other. But do men realize why women get hurt and angry? If not, let's try to understand this matter in detail.

#1 She craves your attention

It's no secret that women love attention. Your girlfriend is as demanding as a 14-year-old teenager when it comes to attention. She loves attention, and if she feels like she's not getting enough of it, she'll explode.

They need it and want it, and just like their male counterparts, they are not afraid to go for what they want. So if your girlfriend is mad at you for something foolish and has nothing to do with the issue at hand, there's a chance she's just craving more of your attention than you're currently giving her. 

Solution: If this turns out to be the case, make sure you're giving her the kind of attention she craves (it could be physical – more time together, more time having fun, and less time with whatever else you're doing) and in return, she will love you even more for making her happy. 

Remember, women are emotional creatures, too, so sometimes all they need is a little extra attention. When she gets a lot of attention, her anger will subside.

#2 She is hiding her wounds/secrets

It's hard being in a relationship when you don't know what to do or are given the cold shoulder of silence. Sometimes, a woman might try to keep her feelings locked up and hidden from you. 

Your girlfriend is very sensitive, so many things set her off. She's under a lot of pressure, and she has to keep many secrets from you.

She could even pretend to get mad so that she could medicate herself with the temporary illusion of feeling better and moving on.

Solution: Your girl isn't usually angry for no reason, but sometimes we act upset for different reasons. Whether it's her way of letting you know that there is a problem or venting out bottled-up emotions, take this as an opportunity to talk about your feelings and create a deeper bond in your relationship.

#3 She is hiding her needs

Have you ever been in a situation where your girlfriend has been acting mad at you for no good reason? It can be confusing and even hurtful not knowing why you are mistreated.

Just one small incident can cause her to feel enough anger to scream or cry longer than you could ever understand. 

It may be something very small, but it doesn't go away when ignored. That's how women become frustrated and angry with men - they want something but don't know how to get it out of you!

Although her anger may seem to come out of the left-field, if you dig a little deeper, you will find that she is mad because you haven't responded to her need in some way; she's been covering it up until she can't anymore.

Solution: It's easy to get into arguments with your girlfriend. It could be something big, or you might take offense to something small. But don't get too wound up in the whole thing. 

Your greatest challenge is understanding her point of view and where she's coming from. Her motives are good, but she hides them well sometimes. She doesn't want to feel vulnerable and weak, so she acts differently around you than she would if she were sitting alone with her girlfriends.

#4 She is either going through a personal or professional rough phase

People go through rough patches in their lives. They have problems with their projects at work and trouble at home, and these things can get them down for a long time.

If your girlfriend has a personal or professional tough phase right now, this might explain her irrational behavior towards you. This can result in extremely irrational behavior on her part, and the blame game might be her way to cope with her problems. 

Solution: Instead of pointing fingers at each other, why not get into a calm talk where both of you can clear things out? 

There is a good chance you're not the reason for her bad moods and aggressive behavior, but you should know she's going through something that you may or may not be aware of, and she might need your support. That might jolt her into realizing what she is doing and open up to you about it.

#5 She has low self esteem

Your girl is not mad at you. She has a problem with low self-esteem and confidence. And she transfers her negative feelings towards you because she uses you as a "target" to take out her frustrations.

Low self-esteem is something people struggle with daily, and it's important to fight it. This problem affects the person who has it and those around them -– especially their romantic partners.

Solution:  She needs help in recovering from low self-esteem, and it starts with convincing her to admit to herself that her negative feelings are directed towards herself. 

To overcome this, try talking to her first. Then, if she is still rude to you or refuses to listen, then ask her to go through a self-esteem improvement program with a psychologist or counselor.

#6 Her mood is all over the place

Have you ever been there? You do something, and then you're greeted with hostility, insults, and rage. Why does that happen? Her mood is bad, so any small thing can make her snap. But why is she being rude? 

Well, the relationship between mood and behavior is a complex one. The human brain functions the same way as the weather: sometimes it rains, and sometimes it showers — be it a good or bad day. And it's the same in your relationship.

She could have had a bad day, and the smallest thing can set her off, so remember that you shouldn't take it personally if she is in a bad mood.

Solution: There is no point leaving this to her attention when she's like that; she will probably be more aggressive if you ignore her or leave her without paying attention to the fact that there's something wrong.

#7 Hopes or expectations are not met

Many small relationships fail simply because it is difficult for people to deal with change. We all have emotional ties to certain expectations, and when things aren't going as we hope, we get mad and upset.

There are also times when she will feel disappointed that her hopes or expectations were not met up to par. This type of disappointment can always lead right away to anger. If you want to make your relationship successful, you need to understand that there will be times when she gets angry at you.  

Solution: If she gets sad that her hopes were unmet or something went wrong in the relationship, this may turn around if you show her your support. She needs support from you during these times more than ever.

#8 You often overlook little things

Couples, who have been together for a long time, may take each other for granted. You might be doing this with your girlfriend by thinking she does not need any compliments or attention at all and that everything is good in the relationship.

You do not notice small changes, and your girlfriend might get mad at you for it. She does all she can to feel good about herself, but she feels sad when not noticing these changes. 

You might not realize how much effort your girlfriend puts into looking beautiful, so it hurts when you don't notice them. The first thing she wants after a long day of work or stress is a compliment from you. 

Your girlfriend asks you if her hair looks nice, if her dress is new, or if the baby fat melted off and she has finally become svelte again. 

Solution: If you give these seemingly little compliments, you will be delighting her day. You will make her feel that even though there are other things to worry about in your busy life, there's still one thing that will always remain constant – your love for her.

That's why you should tell her when you do notice! Even if it was just "Hey, you're looking nice today," or "The new haircut looks good!"

#9 Maybe you are at fault

Your girlfriend is your best friend. She is your everything, and she loves you deeply. So if she gets angry at the smallest things, then it means she is disappointed in you.

You say your girlfriend gets mad at you for the smallest things. Well, maybe she also gets ticked off because she thinks you're lying to her all the time, acted selfishly, and did not think of her opinion, and when you are with her, you constantly check your phone or someone is calling or texting you.

No girl in the world will tolerate being a "second best" or a "backup" option, just like the other million girls around, so you better stop doing that if you want to stay together.

Solution:  If you want to keep your relationship together, try giving her more respect, and she will be more respectful in return. Tell her how much you care about her and value her opinion because she deserves to know that.

#10 She is feeling insecure about you

Like every human being on earth, your girlfriend also imagines things and constructs scenarios of how things you do might end up. In her mind, she pretends certain situations and tries to figure out how they might unfold. She might not want to admit it, but everyone does that at some point or the other.

Relationships are a two-way street. But sometimes, things can get convoluted and confusing, and maybe there is a fault somewhere. 

Solution: If your girlfriend sometimes feels insecure about what you're doing or who you're spending time with, you must learn to read certain signs and make sure you don't do anything to make them feel this way.

To sumup

You've been together for over a year, everything seems happy and peachy, but your girlfriend is starting to get mad at small things. It is important to put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes and why she got mad at you. Look for patterns of how you react to each other. As you grow as an individual, you will grow together as a couple.

Megha Chanda

Weekend Writer

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