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My Girlfriend Gets Mad at Everything I Do [SOLVED]

Are you too busy for your girlfriend? If she feels left out, chances are she might start getting angry. She might feel like you're more focused on work than spending time with her. So she has started getting mad at everything you do.A man sitting on a chair puts one hand on his face seems upset

If you've ever asked yourself, "why does my girlfriend get so mad at me?" you're not alone.

No matter how good of a boyfriend you are, there will be times when your girlfriend gets super upset with you for something that seems insignificant.

You can tell you're a good boyfriend because you care that your girlfriend gets upset with you for so many different things. Most guys would just be like, "I don't know why she's mad." And they'd stay in the dark.

But not you! You're willing to dig a little deeper and figure out what's going on.

So, your girlfriend keeps getting mad at you. I'm here to give you a little insight into what's going on in her brain.

There could be many reasons for this, but we will look at 10 of them

Sometimes, we do things that make our partners irritable. It's a fact of life. But the key is figuring out why those things are happening. Here are some reasons you might be making your partner angry, and how to fix it:

#1 She may be stressed

You might wonder why she jumps all over you every time you do something. It sounds like your girlfriend may be stressed about something happening in her life. It could be work, family stuff, or just feeling overwhelmed or worried about a bunch of different things.

It must be rough when the person you love is upset all the time. I just want to remind you that people have a lot of different reasons for getting mad—it doesn't always have anything to do with what's happened in your relationship with them.

And when that happens, we don't always know how to express our feelings in ways that are healthy or helpful right away—most of us need some practice with that! 

It sounds like your girlfriend may be stressed about something that's happening in her life. It could be work, family stuff, or just feeling overwhelmed or worried about a bunch of different things.

Solution: 

  • Whatever the reason, it would be good to understand the root of her behavior so that you can help her feel better.
  • When she starts getting annoyed, try gently asking what's wrong instead of assuming that she's angry because of you.
  • When we think someone is upset with us, giving them some time and space often helps them cool off and communicate better. If it doesn't seem like that's working after a while, though, try asking if there is anything specific that you can do to make her feel better (or make her feel less annoyed)

#2 She has unresolved trauma from her past

I'm really sorry to hear that your girlfriend is acting out. This is probably really hard on you, and I'm sure you're trying your best to be supportive, so I just want to say that what you're doing is great.

It's hard to know why she's acting this way without knowing more about her past, but it may have something to do with unresolved trauma. 

We all have things from our pasts that leave us feeling hurt or broken. Sometimes we don't even realize how much those experiences have changed us until something in our present reminds us of the past. 

Solution: 

  • Have a conversation with your girlfriend about how she feels when she gets upset with you. Tell her how you feel when she does that—maybe you find it hurtful or emotionally draining, 
  • Ask what you can do differently so that she can feel more comfortable communicating with you when something bothers her. 
  • Encouraging her to seek help isn't just good for her—it's good for your relationship! The more she learns how to deal with whatever is causing this behavior, the more peaceful your relationship will be and the closer you'll become as a couple. If this resonates with your girlfriend, she might benefit from talking out these feelings with a therapist specializing in inherited trauma.

#3 She is not comfortable with you

Both parties put their best foot forward at the beginning of a relationship. Things are great! You're both awesome and happy and excited about everything! 

And then, once things start to settle down, you get comfortable with each other. You stop trying as hard because you feel like there's no need.

But for women, being comfortable with someone else means that they can be vulnerable with that person. It means she trusts them to love her genuine self: the parts she doesn't show to everyone else. 

When she starts being herself around you, she may notice some things that don't come off as well as they did when she was trying harder. She may feel like you're not giving her the same respect or affection you were at the beginning of your relationship. And it can make her feel uncomfortable.

Solution: 

The good news is, you can make this right! The trick is that it *will* take some effort on your part to show her that you still care about her and are attracted to her. 

  • One way to solve this problem is by communicating with your girlfriend and attempting to resolve any issues that may be causing discomfort for her.
  • If there are no obvious problems in the relationship, try talking about them and see if there are any underlying issues that could possibly cause her discomfort.
  • Ask more questions! If your girlfriend says something like, "Ugh, I'm annoyed today," ask her why. Then ask her how you can help make things better for her—and listen to what she says!

#4 You aren't getting back to her texts

I know, I know. You want to text her—you do! But your workday is so busy that you just can't get around to it, and even when you get home, all you want to do is lie on the couch for a couple of hours and watch TV.

But here's the thing:  even if she doesn't realize it, she's still using those texts as a way for her to connect with you during the day and remind herself that you're thinking about her. And when she doesn't get them, it makes her feel disconnected from you, like maybe something has gone wrong in your relationship.

Solution:

To bridge the gap-

  • First, I recommend that you let her know what's going on, so she doesn't feel ignored. 
  • Then, I suggest reminding her about all the other things that go into your life. You might be swept up in work or school, which means you won't be able to respond all the time quickly. 
  • You could also mention how much time it takes to commute if your girlfriend lives far away from where you are now.
  • Next time she texts you, try taking just five minutes out of your day to respond and let her know that you love her and are thinking about her—it'll make a huge difference in how she feels about being in a relationship with you!

The bottom line is that she is probably feeling neglected because you haven't responded to her texts yet—but she doesn't know about everything going on behind the scenes! So sit down and have a chat about it!

#5 She's super worried about you

Hey, bud. Just know that she's just worried when she gets mad at you for the smallest things and even yells at you a bit.

She wants you to be your best and most successful self, and she knows that the right support can help you get there.

She knows it's hard to do this alone, and she wants to be there for you—so if sometimes she feels like she needs to give you a little extra push or pull on the reigns, just know that it's coming from a place of love.

Trust me; I know how hard it is to be sensitive enough to pick up on this when she's mad about it. But trust me, it'll make her feel a lot better if you can recognize that her anger is just another form of love for you.

Solution: 

The next time your girlfriend gets mad at something you do, instead of getting defensive or annoyed, think about how much she cares about your future and how lucky you are that someone would see so much potential in you that they'd want to protect it even if it makes them unpopular with the person they love.

#6 You don't listen to her

It's easy to get caught up in your own life and forget to focus on others. But when you make that mistake with your girlfriend, she will take it personally.

Women value listening a lot more than men do, and they often equate it with caring. So if you aren't making an effort to hear what she's saying, she'll feel like you don't care about her feelings.

Maybe she's asked you to be more mindful or to do the dishes more often. Maybe she's asked you not to leave your stuff in the living room. But if you're not acting on what she says and trying to change, it will make her feel like nothing she says matters.

Solution: 

So, how can you fix it? 

  • The first thing is just being more aware of whether or not you're listening to her. 
  • Give her all of your attention when she's speaking instead of half-listening while checking Twitter on your phone. Keep your eyes locked on hers, so she knows you're interested in what she says. This will make her feel better about herself, but it will also help you understand each other better and build a stronger relationship!

#7 You're always busy doing something else

I know it's hard to see from your perspective, but it's not like she wants to get mad at you. She doesn't want to feel like you're always busy doing something else.

It's not that she's mad at you for being busy—it's that she just wants some of your attention. 

She knows you're a busy guy and have many things going on, but she doesn't want to feel like she's not important to you. That's why she gets upset when you're constantly busy with work or your friends. 

She wants to feel important and loved, and when you're too busy for her, it makes her feel like she's not important or loved by you.

Solution: 

Try some of these things-

  • Tell her how much she means to you. Compliment her often and take the time to let her know that you love her and appreciate the things she does for you.
  • Make time for her regularly. It will make her feel valued knowing that you have scheduled time for just the two of you. If work is crazy, tell her about it and tell her when it will end so she knows when life will go back to normal.

#8 She feels like you are ignoring her 

Ever wonder what's going on in your girlfriend's head when she gets mad at you for doing... well, anything?

Well, it's pretty simple.

Your girlfriend gets mad at you because she feels like you ignore her.

When you ignore her, she feels disrespected and undervalued. She thinks that you're literally not taking the time to pay attention to her or see her perspective.

Solution: 

Simple!

  • You need to make time for her. You don't need to be with her 24/7, but making sure that she knows she's important to you and has a place in your life will go a long way toward showing her that she's not being pushed aside. 
  • The next time she starts complaining about something you've done, ask her what made her feel that way and listen carefully to what she says. 
  • Then take a few minutes to think about how this relates to other things that have made her unhappy lately. 
  • Then explain to her why you didn't mean to hurt her feelings and tell her how much you care about her.

#9 You're spending too much time with your boys

There's nothing worse than when your girlfriend is mad at you, especially if you don't know why! But what if there was a way to read her mind and find out exactly what she's thinking?

It could be something as simple as spending too much time with your friends.

She doesn't like how much time you spend with your friends instead of spending it with her.

Women are often more sensitive than men and need to feel valued. If she doesn't feel like she's important enough to you for you to spend your time and energy on her, she will naturally get upset about it.

But there's good news: all that means is that you need to make a little more effort to show her how much she means to you! 

Solution: 

What if there was a way for you to make spending time with your girlfriend as fun and exciting as hanging out with your buddies?

Well, now there is! Let her pick the activity. 

  • If she wants to spend an hour cuddling on the couch, let her pick the show. If she wants to go out to dinner and a movie, let her pick the restaurant and the movie. And if she wants to play board games all night, let her pick the game. 
  • You may not always love what she chooses, but you'll have built-in quality time with your lady.

The bottom line is to spend more time hanging out with her and make sure she knows that she has all of your attention when you're with her. Tell her how much you love being around her and how glad you are that she's yours. 

#10 You never tell her anything important that happens in your life

Your girlfriend gets mad at everything you do because you don't tell her anything important that happens in your life.

Would you want to be with somebody who didn't care to keep you up-to-date on what was happening in their world?

No, you wouldn't.

You'd be pissed!

And so is she.

Sometimes guys think girls don't want to know what's going on with them, so they don't tell them anything important until it's too late. This is how fights start: when suddenly something big happens, she finds out about it all at once instead of being able to follow along as it happened.

How do you fix this?

Solution: 

  • Just tell her about your life! If you're going on a trip for work, tell her before the day you leave so she isn't mad when she gets up expecting to see you in the morning, and you're not there.
  • If something good happens in your life, let her know! This will make her happy, and then she'll be more likely to help if something bad happens later. 

When you tell someone everything that happens in your life and invite them into those experiences with their unique perspective, they get to be closer to you than anyone else in the world. 

In a nutshell, 

Love and affection build us up, while negativity tears us down. It's not always easy to know how to give and accept support in a relationship, but remember that you're trying to help your partner feel secure—don't say anything that would make them feel insecure.

Understanding why your partner is getting mad at you will become easier if you have an open and honest discussion. There are no right or wrong things that make people angry.

You just need to find out the reason for your girlfriend getting mad at you. When you know the reason, then you can easily handle this problem. To make your relationship better, use these reasons to work on it.

I hope this article helped you learn a little more about my girlfriend getting mad at everything I do. Let me know what you did in the comment section below! You can also share if you have any other techniques in mind that can help people in this situation.

Megha Chanda

Weekend Writer

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