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My Girlfriend Calls Other Guys Cute or Hot [8 Dealing Tips]

If your girlfriend's comment is genuine without any romantic intention, you shouldn't be worried. However, if it is still bothering you, I encourage you to have an open conversation with your girlfriend. It will help to drive away your tension, and you'll get a perspective on why she is calling other guys cute or hot even though she is in a relationship.Man puts his hand on his head looking upset

Hey dude, it sounds like you're feeling a little insecure. It can be really difficult to handle your partner calling other people cute or hot, especially when it makes you feel jealous. 

It's legible that you'd feel threatened when your girlfriend talks about how much she likes another guy, especially if you're very attached to her. After all, who wouldn't want to be the only person in their significant other's life?

I understand your frustration and the fact that you want to know if it's okay or not.

It's important to say that it's normal for people to find others attractive even if they're committed. It's not she's thinking about doing anything with them!

Whatever you do, don't freak out when she calls some other guy hot or cute. It's not the end of the world, and it certainly doesn't mean she will leave you for him just because he has a hot face. 

Here are 8 reasons your girlfriend calls other guys "cute" or "hot"

Do you have a girlfriend? Does this girlfriend call other guys cute or hot, even though she is in a relationship?

You might be wondering how to stop this! But before we get into that, let's talk about why your girlfriend could be doing this.

#1 She's a normal girl, and she likes other attractive people, too

It's normal for your girlfriend to notice other attractive people. If she's in a relationship with you, it doesn't mean that she is blind to everyone else. It's the same reason you probably notice other cute girls: attraction is a natural part of being human.

If you notice that she's constantly bringing up other people in conversation, or if it seems like she's always trying to make you jealous, then there might be more going on. But if she just notices that someone looks nice and comments on it, don't overthink it!

Let your girlfriend call other guys hot. It helps her understand why you are a little better, too!

#2 She calls other guys cute or hot because you don't pay attention to her

Your girlfriend's calling other guys cute or hot is probably not because she wants to date them; it's because she wants you to pay more attention to her.

She is calling other people hot or cute to get your attention. She calls other guys hot because she wants you to notice her! She might feel that you don't pay enough attention to her, so she's trying to remind you that she's available.

 #3 She calls other guys cute or hot because you don't look after yourself

If she's calling other guys cute or hot, chances are it's because you're not taking care of yourself.

It's important to make sure you stay healthy and look after your body. If you don't, there's nothing wrong with that!

So what should you do? If you feel like her calling other people cute is hurting your relationship, Maybe try going to the gym more often and eating healthier foods? When she sees how attractive and fit you've become, she'll hopefully stop calling other people cute!

 #4 She calls other guys cute or hot just as a friend does

I don't think it's unusual that your girlfriend still speaks positively about other guys. She has a lot of male friends, and this may just be that she's trying to maintain her friendships with these guys and is using these words as a form of affectionate communication.

We all do it sometimes—that doesn't necessarily mean we're flirting or interested in anyone else!

#5 She calls other guys cute or hot when she is bored with the relationship

According to psychologists, this is pretty normal. When you're in a relationship, it's easy to get comfortable with the person you're with and stop trying to impress them, which can be great for your relationship health—but it can often mean that you start neglecting your appearance or simply saying the same things over and over again instead of trying new things.

If your girlfriend has been doing this for a while, and she doesn't seem like she's cheating on you, it might be a sign that she's bored or needs something new from you. Try spicing up your looks by switching up your hairstyle, dressing differently, or taking a break from your usual routine.

#6 She is flirting with other guys

It's very common for a girl to flirt with other guys, even if she's in a relationship. It could be that she enjoys flirting with other guys and sees it as fun, nothing more.

If she loves you, you probably don't have anything to worry about. But if you're not sure how her flirting with other men makes you feel, it might be good to sit down and talk honestly about it. That way, you can figure out how to proceed together.

#7 She has a crush on someone else

Your girlfriend calling other guys cute or hot can signify a crush. You should talk to her about the situation and ask her how she feels about the two of you.

If she doesn't have feelings for this "other guy," there is probably no reason to worry. It's unlikely that she means anything by it. However, if she's attracted to him, you should be prepared for the possibility that she wants to break up with you.

#8 She is not ready for a relationship yet

Your girlfriend might not be ready for a relationship yet. She might be waiting for someone better to come along, or she might not have felt the spark yet with you, even though it's been a few months since you've been dating.

You should talk to her about it and let her know how you feel. If you like her, give her some space, and maybe she will come around.

If you're wondering what to do when your girlfriend calls other guys cute or hot, we've got some tips to help you feel better about the situation

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#1 If your girlfriend has been calling other guys cute or hot, it's time to ask yourself the big question-

Do I trust my girlfriend enough to believe that she is only attracted to me? 

You might be surprised at the answer! If you answered "yes," then don't worry about your girlfriend calling other guys cute or hot.

Give her the leeway to comment on others' attractiveness without being insecure. A compliment is just a compliment, after all.

The most important thing to remember is that your girlfriend is into you. If she's calling other guys cute or hot, she must think it's fine for you to call other girls cute, too. And the more open you are with each other about who else you find attractive, the better!

What if the answer is "no"?

Is it worth being with someone you know would (or might) cheat on you if given the opportunity? Only you can answer that question. But if it's something that's bothering you, why not talk to your girlfriend about it?

Maybe there's some work to be done in the trust department. If there are trust issues, the best way to fix them is by communicating with each other—that means talking through things and listening with an open mind and heart.

See what she thinks about it. She may have a different perspective on things than you, so it's important to hear both sides of the story before making rash decisions.

#2 Don't allow yourself to be controlled by your insecurities 

When your girlfriend calls another guy cute, it's easy to let your insecurities take control of the situation. But you don't have to! Instead of reacting with anger or jealousy, take a deep breath and let the feelings pass over you. Let them go.

It can be hard to do this—believe me, I know—but as soon as you let yourself be overtaken with jealousy or insecurity, it starts to control you. Instead of reacting from a place of calm and love, you react from a place of fear. 

But if you can treat your significant other like the one who loves you most in the world, that kind of behavior loses its power over you. 

And then she will recognize more of what drew her to you in the first place: a guy who isn't afraid to be vulnerable, who's willing to have tough conversations about important topics, and who has enough faith in his relationship that he can sit quietly. At the same time, his partner shares something that might make him uncomfortable.

#3 Communication is the key

You're out with your girlfriend, and she runs into a cute guy, and you feel like you need to run away.

Instead of taking your girlfriend's appreciative glances at other men the wrong way, you should use them as an opportunity to learn more about her and communicate healthily.

If you're thinking of doing anything other than communicating, don't. When your girlfriend calls another guy cute or maybe hot, you need to communicate with her. 

If you don't communicate, you'll end up in a downward spiral of jealousy and anger. You'll see your girlfriend talking to a guy who's not you and assume she's cheating on you—you won't even ask her about it because you assume that communicating will only lead to more pain.

Communication is the key to solving any problem in a relationship. So just talk to your girlfriend! Ask her why she's calling this guy cute—maybe it's because they're friends, and she doesn't like him. Or maybe he's a coworker she has to deal with all day but would never think of dating.

Communicating is the key here because when you communicate, you can fix your problems by talking about them instead of letting them fester and grow into something much worse.

Start by telling her how you feel when she calls another guy "cute or hot." It's hard to be vulnerable in front of someone you care about, but being able to share your feelings will help keep your relationship healthy and strong. 

Once she understands how you feel about it, she'll probably try to be more careful about saying it around you. If not— alternatively, if you feel like the situation is beyond repair, break up. You deserve someone who will love and respect you for who you are.

#4 Be respectful when explaining why the behavior bothers you

Your girlfriend is always telling you how cute or hot other guys are. You want to tell her that it bothers you, but you don't want her to think you're being disrespectful. What should you do?

Here's what you should do: Be respectful when explaining why the behavior bothers you.

It's great that your girlfriend thinks other guys are cute or hot—it just might not be great for your relationship with her. While there's nothing wrong with admiring a good-looking guy, it's important to make sure she understands that this behavior may be making you feel a little neglected in the relationship.

  • Talk to your girlfriend, and be respectful of her feelings throughout the entire conversation. 
  • Don't accuse her of doing anything wrong; just let her know what's been upsetting you lately and how it makes you feel. 
  • Also, don't forget to tell her why this has bothered you so much. For example, say something like, "I really wish you wouldn't call other men cute/hot because I feel like it makes me look bad, and I don't like it." She'll be more likely to respect your boundaries if she knows why they matter to you.

#5 Give her space to talk about her feelings about the situation

When your girlfriend calls other guys cute or hot, it's easy to panic. You may feel like a third wheel and like she doesn't care about you the way she did before.

But the truth is that things like this happen to everyone in relationships at some point. It's not the end of the world, and it's not even necessarily a bad thing—at least not if you handle your reaction well.

The first thing you should do is give her space to talk about her feelings about the situation. You may be surprised that she genuinely compliments a person without any romantic intention. 

Try to see things from her point of view. Being in a relationship should not mean that you are not allowed to notice other people. If you take this approach, she will respect you more for being open-minded and understanding.

#6 Make her feel valued

Your girlfriend is going to be tempted by other guys. It's just a fact of life. But there are things you can do that can help make it less likely she'll fall for the advances of some gentleman who thinks she's cute.

For example, make sure she feels valued. Let her know how much you love and appreciate her and how important she is in your life. Suppose she feels loved, valued, and appreciated by her boyfriend.

It will strengthen your bond and make her less likely to be tempted by other guys who say they think she's cute or hot or whatever because ultimately, you are the only one who matters in the end anyway.

Use these tips to show how much you care:

  • Give her compliments regularly 
  • Make time for each other 
  • Be affectionate in public
  • Plan surprise dates 
  • Buy gifts 

#7 Sit and work on your relationship boundaries

Hey! I know that when your girlfriend calls other guys cute or hot, it can feel like she's cheating on you. But I want to encourage you to sit and work on your relationship boundaries, which will help you communicate more effectively about making your relationship work for both of you.  

The first thing you need to do is sit down and figure out your relationship boundaries. It is important to have boundaries in place, so you both know what to expect from each other and whatnot. 

Boundaries also let both parties know what's acceptable and what's not. It would be good to sit down with her and talk about it as soon as you can. You will be amazed at how beneficial this step is towards improving your relationship!

#8 Try not to bring up the subject too much once you've talked about it 

You're going about your day, and you feel the little twinge that tells you something's not quite right. Then you remember that your girlfriend called a guy on her way to work "cute or hot."

Don't let this stuff get to you! If it's bothering you, talk to her about it. But try not to bring up the subject too much once you've talked about it unless there's a good reason for doing so.

However, try not to bring up the subject too much once you've talked about it unless there's a good reason for doing so. You don't want her to think you're nitpicking or controlling because both are pretty negative qualities for a partner.

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. If you have that trust, then no number of cute or even hot guys will be able to shake it.

You have put your best foot forward to save your relationship, but bad luck, some things are not meant to be together forever, and I think your relationship is one of those things. 

So, now let's talk about some Red Flags

You need to consider some hard truths: And when does that happen? Oh, man. Your world will change in the best way possible—and trust me, I've seen it happen for my friends so many times.

So please don't stay in a bad situation just because ending it seems scary or difficult right now. You are strong enough to handle whatever comes at you, and if things aren't working between the two of you anymore, then it isn't worth holding onto something that isn't making either of you happy anymore.

#1 She purposely calls other guys' cute' or 'hot'

When your girlfriend calls other guys "cute" or "hot," it's time to take a step back and think about what that means.

Is she doing it to make you jealous? Is she doing it to make you feel uncomfortable?

If so, that's a big red flag. Nobody should be made to feel insecure in a relationship. And if your girlfriend is going out of her way to make you feel that way, you deserve better.

You deserve someone who will love and respect you. Someone who will treat you with kindness and compassion. Someone who won't intentionally hurt your feelings or try to manipulate you into making them happy.

It might take time for you to find someone like that, but rest assured: They're out there waiting for you!

#2 She doesn't respect your feelings

When you have a significant other, one of the things you're most looking for is to be respected and valued for all your opinions and feelings. 

If your girlfriend does not value that, you feel bad when she calls other guys cute or hot; she's not respecting you or your relationship. And if she's not doing that, why are you still with her?

Start by telling her how it makes you feel. Be direct about it, and if she doesn't listen or keep doing it no matter how much it hurts you. She values other people more than you. If she can't respect your feelings, how can she respect you? 

It may be hard, but in the long run, your heart will thank you for getting rid of a partner who just doesn't get what love is supposed to be about.

And will throw them away without thinking twice—even if they're important to you.

#3 She doesn't value commitment

You love your girlfriend, and you'd do anything for her. But what if she doesn't feel the same way? What if she's just not that into you?

It's one of the most common questions that a guy asks himself while in a relationship.

Often, it comes down to the little things—or, more specifically, the little flirtatious comments she makes about other guys. She calls them cute. She calls them hot. She says they look good together. She tells you that he's funny or has a great personality.

The truth is, if your girlfriend finds these random guys attractive and starts flirting with them in front of you, it can be a sign that she doesn't value commitment.

Maybe she feels like she hasn't found the right one in you or is just testing out other options. 

The best thing for your self-worth (and your health) is to get out of this relationship. Don't let yourself turn into a sidekick, and don't let yourself be mistreated. Find someone who values your commitment, and if they don't, then find someone else.

#4 She violates relationship boundaries

When your girlfriend calls other guys cute or hot, it's time to step back and take stock of the relationship. Sure, you both might have agreed that you won't randomly compliment your friends on their looks or talk about how hot someone is.

There's a reason why you and your girlfriend decided not to compliment other people, right? It's because you both want to avoid jealousy and drama—to maintain a healthy, happy relationship. 

If she can't even honor that one simple agreement, what does that mean for the future of your relationship? It means she'll violate any promise or boundary when convenient for her.

You don't want to be with someone who consistently disregards your feelings or refuses to follow through on the agreements you've set together. If you don't feel like she can keep her word now, will you be able to trust your lady later on?


Things may be changing in your relationship because of this different behavior from your girlfriend. If you feel that there is a cause for worry or concern, perhaps it is time to take action and try to get to the bottom of it so that no more serious situation arises. Although there is no telling, it is better to be safe than sorry.

You can easily win your partner's heart with the actions mentioned above. With those steps, you will have your back to a prosperous relationship. It will not be tough anymore to deal with your partner. All you need to be with is the proper approach and faith.

I hope you now have some solution to at least start the conversation. If we can help in any other way, then let us know.

Megha Chanda

Weekend Writer

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