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Why Did My Ex Unfollow Me Months Later? (Things you can do)

When you and your ex were together, he followed you on social media to keep tabs on what you were up to. But now that the two of you are no longer together, he probably doesn't care about what you're doing anymore—and therefore doesn't need to follow you on social media.Featured Image of Why Did My Ex Unfollow Me Months Later

Your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend unfollows you on social media months after a breakup.

Sound familiar? It probably does. We've all been there: You're scrolling through your Instagram feed, and you notice that your ex has unfollowed you. You're left with a sinking feeling in your stomach and an urge to cry.

It's natural to feel hurt, but what is the reason behind this behavior? Why do some people feel the need to abruptly cut ties with their past relationships?

Hey there, we're so glad you found us! It can be hard to know what to do next when your ex has dumped you.

Here are SEVEN reasons why people unfollow their exes on social media

We're here to help. We've compiled a list of the seven most common reasons your ex unfollows you months later (and how to address each one). Read on and feel free to reach out with any questions—we're here for you!

#1 They're still in love with you

There's a good chance your ex still has feelings for you and is trying to avoid them. They may have unfollowed you on social media, but that doesn't mean they're done with you forever. 

They may have unfollowed you on social media because they're afraid of falling back in love with you. They might have realized that they have some unresolved feelings, and they don't want to be reminded of those feelings by seeing your posts.

Pro Tip: If you still want to reach out to them, send them a text message. or email instead—it'll give them time to process what this means before deciding whether or not they want to respond. Make sure not to be too aggressive—you don't want to scare them off—but don't be too timid either. You want to keep them guessing (and their interest level high).

#2 They want you to reach out first

They want you to reach out first, so they can know if you're ready or not for a relationship again. Your ex-partner might not have had the time to tell you, but they were waiting for a sign from you that it was okay to rekindle things.

They don't want to risk making you feel pressured or rejected by jumping the gun. So instead of reaching out first and risking rejection, the old flame will wait for you to make the first move. That way, they know that you're ready for something serious and that it was worth the wait.

Pro Tip: If this is the case, it's time to make your move! Your ex is probably waiting for an opening from you before reaching out again. So send them a message and let them know how much you miss talking to them and how much you wish things had worked out between you.

#3 They were embarrassed about the relationship

Your ex may have unfollowed you on social media because they were embarrassed about the relationship and wanted to forget it. 

It's possible that they realized the relationship was a mistake, or maybe they were just disappointed with how things turned out.

Whatever the case, their feelings have been hurt. Now, they want to avoid any reminders of what happened between the two of you to protect themselves from those feelings.

Pro Tip: You can help your ex heal by doing things like:

-Avoiding them in person and online

-Waiting until they're ready to talk before contacting them again.

#4 They want to maintain distance

If your ex has been feeling bad about the breakup and wants to keep their distance from you, then it makes sense for them not to follow you anymore. It's a way of saying "I'm over this" without actually having to say it directly.

This is a classic case when people unfollow their exes on social media. The person who unfollowed you probably doesn't want to be reminded of the good times they had with you, so they will avoid seeing your posts as much as possible.

They'll also remove you from any group chats or conversations they may have with friends who might mention your name in passing.

This isn't personal; it's just an easy way for them to keep their mind focused on other things and not get stuck thinking about their ex too much!

Sometimes after a breakup, people will want to keep their distance from the person who hurt them or made them feel bad.

They don't want to think about them all the time and relive their negative experiences with that person repeatedly. 

#5 They've been working on themselves

It might not be what you want to hear, but there's a good chance that your ex is trying to protect themselves from getting hurt again.

They've been working on themselves, ensuring that they don't feel bad if they see pictures of you with someone else. 

They may have unfollowed you as a way to avoid seeing your life without them. It could also be that they are afraid of the emotions that will arise when they see you happy with another person, so they have decided to avoid this by unfollowing you.

It's a very common thing that happens when people break up with someone—they want to make sure they're okay if their ex gets back together with someone else.

It's not necessarily about you. Specifically, it's just about them making sure that they're okay with whatever happens in the future.

#6 They're worried about being judged by others

Your ex has unfollowed you months after the breakup because they are worried about being judged by others for still following someone they have broken up with.

They may have done this unconsciously, given that social media is an inherently public space where people are constantly being evaluated and judged by their peers.

Many of us have unfollowed people on social media who were once close to us out of fear that we'll be judged for still following them—even though we may still care about them and want to keep in touch with them!

Whatever the reason for this behavior change may be, it's important to remember that there's no right or wrong way to deal with breakups; everyone handles them differently! If this has happened to you recently, don't beat yourself up over it—keep doing what makes sense for YOU!

#7 They found someone new 

 This is a hard pill to swallow, but it happens often.

The thing about unfollowing someone on social media is that it doesn't necessarily mean anything bad. It could be as simple as finding someone new and wanting to leave the old relationship behind them.

In this case, it sounds like your ex has found someone new and wants to focus on that person instead of you.

What should you do?

Pro tip: Nothing! Don't try to get them back. Just move on with your life and let go of any feelings you still have for them so you can be happy again!

It's not easy to be the one who got unfollowed.

Sometimes, even if you know it's for the best and ends things on good terms, it can still hurt.

But there's no need to stay in pain forever! 

Here are things you can do when your ex unfollows you months later after a breakup

Don't panic! There are many reasons why someone might stop following you on social media, and it doesn't mean anything about how they feel about you personally—it could just mean that they're busy and not thinking about the internet right now.

It's hard to know what to do when your ex unfollows you on social media months after a breakup. There's a lot of conflicting advice out there, but here's some good stuff:

#1 Let go of any lingering feelings of anger or resentment—they're not serving you

If you've been through a breakup, it's natural to feel like your ex is being petty by unfollowing you months after the breakup. But remember that this is just their way of trying to move on.

They might be struggling with the same emotions that you are, and they might be trying to cope with them by avoiding reminders of the relationship.

#2 Be gentle with yourself

Please don't blame yourself for the breakup or anything that happened after it ended. You are not responsible for how someone else feels or what they do with their feelings—you did nothing wrong!

You're amazing! You are perfect just as you are! So please don't beat yourself up over something that isn't your fault or try to figure out why they unfollowed you because there's no reason why and no explanation will ever make sense anyway.

#3 Don't respond out of anger

Don't make any big decisions immediately in the days after learning about the unfollowing—wait before making any big plans or commitments. Don't respond out of anger. This will only make things worse.

If you need some time alone to think things through, permit yourself to do that! You might want to spend some time with friends who can help you see things from a different perspective or distract you from thinking about your ex.

And if you're feeling upset, it may be worth talking to someone who can help: A trusted friend, therapist, or counselor may be able to help guide you through this tough time and get you back on track with your life.

#4 Stop stalking your ex

When you and your ex go through a breakup, it's natural to be curious about what they're up to. But if they've unfollowed you on social media, it might be good to take a break from stalking them on social media.

It's easy to get caught up in wondering what your ex is up to and what they're doing with their life, but it doesn't usually do much good.

If you don't know how much time has passed since the two of you were together, it might be best to give them some space and not try to figure out what they're up to.

#5 Focus on yourself instead of your ex

If the breakup still hurts you, focus on what you want from your life instead of what you don't have anymore.

Remember that YOU are important too! You need to focus on your happiness and well-being, not just theirs.

Try taking up a new hobby or learning something new; do whatever makes YOU happy! You must take care of yourself because nobody else will do it for you!

#6 Ask yourself if it's worth the effort to reconnect

The best way to get over a breakup is to move on with your life. If you think that reconnecting with your ex will help you do that, it's worth exploring. But if you're still feeling hurt and angry about the breakup, it might be better for you to let go of that relationship and move forward in your life.


There are many reasons why someone might have done this, but it is important to remember that it doesn't mean anything about your relationship or how much they liked you.

When people reject us, it doesn't mean that we're not good enough or ugly enough or smart enough or whatever else we might feel insecure about. It just means that we're not right for them—and that's okay! The world is full of people who will love you for exactly who you are and what makes you unique.

You deserve to be loved by someone who sees how incredible you are, not just by anyone who wants something from you at any cost. So don't let one rejection define your self-worth; take this as an opportunity to grow into the best version of yourself possible!

Megha Chanda

Weekend Writer

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